I had promised myself that I wouldn’t rant really bad on my blog…but I’m going to make an exception for this. I am really considering starting a boot camp for men that don’t have a clue how to treat a woman.
I SO wouldn’t describe myself as a full-blown, bra-burning feminist by any means, but let me tell y’all, I’ve had it with the whole caveman-sort of thinking. It’s ridiculous. Frankly, I am also sick of the dispute on “Wives, submit to your own husbands.” Many people stop reading there…but, as it says a few verses down (Ephesians 5:25), “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ has loved the church and gave Himself for her…” THEREFORE, husbands shouldn’t beat their wives, discourage their wives, call her names, or just plain talk to their wives like they are the scum of the earth. When they do that, the woman get this distorted image of herself and believes that she isn’t worth anything. There is nothing sadder than a woman who has low self-esteem. I pity these women. Most of all, I loathe the men that do that to them. What gives them the right to treat anyone like that? There are plenty of macho men out there that treat their wives and girlfriends like they love and care about them. You don’t have to treat a girl like dirt to be considered a “man.” All I can say is…”Oh, what I could do with a shovel…”
For an update on me…my anxiety attacks have come back again. I feel like it goes away for a while, and decides to come and raise its ugly head. It’s very frustrating b/c you never know when it’ll show up again.
ok, so Amy told me to post a comment ;) but I agree with you.. I get so frustrated when people often quote cherry picked verses, and fail to read a few lines down... Particularly the following verses are quite a tall order for most men to even consider...
ReplyDeleteverse 28 - "So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself."
and again it is re-iterated in verse 33 - "Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband."
It would seem from my point of view that being told to love your wife as much as you love yourself would mean that before a man goes fishing, hunting, or any other activity a man enjoys... they should instead be thinking of their wife first... That is if they followed this verbatim.. Of course, if a man did this.. then I don't think a woman would have a problem with submission at all..
Exactly Bobby. You know what I'm saying. As you say, people will pick and choose what they want to follow (and I can't say anything, b/c I catch myself doing that sometimes too). But I just feel like God intended marriage to be a loving, considerate, compassionate relationship. Not one of control and fear. It just makes me sick when a guy treats his wife like scum. That's not a marriage...it's a dictatorship. I'm glad Amy has a husband that gets that.
ReplyDeleteNobody will ever win the Battle of the Sexes. There's just too much fraternizing with the enemy. ~Henry Kissinger
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